Replaying it

Replay it, and it rises again

Byeol goes through the same thing again. The yellow line is the day Byeol felt hurt once and let it go. The blue line is the day Byeol replayed it over and over. Each replay lifts the wave again, so it stays past the next day. This replaying is the biggest reason a feeling lasts.

Why?When you rewind the same scene in your head, the feeling from that moment comes back with it. So the event happened once, but the feeling happens many times. Researchers found that replaying also best explains why some feelings last longer than others.

Go furtherReplaying is called rumination, from the way cows chew their food again and again. Replaying is not the same as calmly looking back. When you move from “Why always me?” to “What will I do next time?”, you are looking back instead.